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Want to find single women seeking men? Start Here! Some people take online dating searches very seriously. They have a specific shopping list of criteria ...


As for how to spark that interest and curiosity, I’m here to answer that age-old question and get you on a path to the success with women you want. There are a lot of beautiful, smart, single women out there. So, finding the best match becomes a real challenge. Add to that your lack of time, the pandemic restrictions, and already established social circle, and here you are, cool and single.


Why Online Dating? People haven't invented a faster, more convenient, and effective way of finding a soulmate than online dating apps. That's why their popularity is ever-growing. You see the person's appearance, the way they present themselves, you can see their relationship goals, interests, and preferences. This way, you can "filter candidates" more effectively and faster. Plus, you can easily start a conversation online as you already have some information from profiles to build your communication on. Moreover, you can be sure that all users there are open to new acquaintances.

I am single and have been for the past three years. My entire adult life has been punctuated by periods of celibacy often lasting years, which has understandably caused me to question every aspect of myself. Am I repulsive? Not to be rude, but even the least attractive people manage to find mates. Am I boring? I am a well-educated, articulate, successful woman, so I do not believe so. Am I a know-it-all? Well, I can be, but again, even these types of people build relationships with others. I never went on a single date in high school. I went to prom with my best friend's brother. In college, I was shy, withdrawn, and had no social life. As a junior, I moved to Athens, Georgia, and transferred to the University of Georgia. There, I was first date-raped, and then I had a one-night stand with a guy I met at a club. Next, I met a really nice guy at the place where I worked, and two months later, we married. That lasted for seven years until he divorced me to marry his girlfriend who was carrying his twin sons (I cannot have children). After that, I had a few ill-conceived relationships with younger men that were based purely upon sex. To this point in my forty-three years, I have never truly dated anyone, and I finally realized why. It is me. I purposely date "beneath" me. Then, I had to consider the next logical puzzle: how does one meet quality partners? The only males who ever seemed interested in me were uneducated (including my husband, who was proud to have only read one book entitled Skippy the Squirrel) and only interested in sex. After much soul-searching, I came to the following conclusions. Never date a coworker unless you are ready to move on to another job. People see you in the way that you see yourself, so if you feel unworthy of a quality relationship, then you will never be in one. You have to use a network of friends and acquaintances to be introduced to the worthy mates. Never rush intimacy. Sex becomes cheap and so do you in your partner's eyes if it is too easy too early. Build some romance. If a person does something to make you feel uncomfortable or unworthy, don't accept it. Move on. Not to be trite, but there are plenty of fish in the sea if you know how to catch them.